Rambling: Confidence

Nicholas Lucchetto
Started Saturday, 4:33 PM
Finished Sunday, 11:44 AM

These “Rambling” posts are articles that are based on one topic, and don’t start or end with any specific direction. It’s easy for me to write with a jam-packed schedule, and it’s just a little different from the regular read for you. You’ve been warned.

One of the most common topics on my blog to this day is having self-confidence, despite writing the classic I think-based phrase here and there. In fact, I rarely post anything that isn’t related to confidence. It’s simply a topic that is close to my heart. Now, maybe that’s because I was raised in a “be yourself, no matter what” environment since preschool, or maybe I’ve grown to be an odd one out over time. Of course, having too much confidence in your actions isn’t good. Running out onto the street butt-naked is not what I’d call a good choice.

Don’t get me wrong; I like being able to stand out from the crowd, but I’m a semi-advocator of “fitting in” nonetheless. Like mentioned before, being off (like, way off) from others is not my style. Some of my best friends, and the coolest people I know, manage to be different and still down to earth.

Most of us have heard the stories of people who “dream and aspire to be cool and dashing,” or “have always wanted to just get noticed,” that try to fit in at their school or place of work to do so, but quickly learn that being who they are is what really makes them noticeable. I hate to repeat that message, as I pride myself in creating original content, but it should really be obvious that having the confidence to stick out will bring attention from the masses. When has the same = different equation ever been true?

But what if you’ve already realized that putting your true self out into the world is good, and you’re just a little nervous or embarrassed about what that really means? Or you’re worried about what others will think about your new and unorthodox project? We’ve all been there, and sadly there’s no simple solution. At first, telling yourself to “stay confident and proud” seems like an easy task, but depending on the type of person (e.g. outgoing or introverted) that can range from “sort-of hard” to “extremely hard”. If you in this situation right now, I wish I could help you out, but listing every single way I can think of to be confident in your work still won’t fit everyone’s needs.

Instead, how about I list the tips and tricks I use to crush the fear and anxiety.

I. Focus on other things.

Simply taking my mind off the project I’m presenting always manages to put me at ease and lets the time fly by like a 747-8 (pretty fast). Just put on some headphones and listen to some music for a while, if that’s what helps you.

II. Don’t dwell on it.

Can’t get over that one little problem you got wrong on the test? Or those two or three sentences you forgot to put on your science fair poster board? Don’t fret, because unless it means not getting into your first choice of college or job, these are just a few bumps in the rocky road of life.

And after you present your project, or go ahead with the plans you made, why not ask a couple friends or family members, to see what they think? If you know you can trust them, they will most likely be the honest and comforting person you need.

Speaking of good people, growing confidence means you need to practically surround yourself with them. Your family should already be a good start, but focus on the people that are where you spend most of your day. Work, school, you name it. Whoever you know that is nice, trustworthy, and encouraging should get you one step closer.

Now that I’ve used about 600 words to describe the process of growing confidence, I want to explain why confidence matters, especially in writing.

With the vast, and even infinite, amount of things to write about in this day and age, anybody is bound to find a captivating topic and still be nervous about sharing it with others. A few years ago, I considered myself very confident and I still refrained from sharing my writing unless I absolutely had to. Despite that, I still had the urge to let everyone see it, I was just afraid to do so. Now, I have fully accomplished my goal only using the resources around me. The Internet, and my blog. So many people I know, and some I do not, read my posts twice a week, but it doesn’t have any effect on me besides joy anymore.

Honestly, I have no idea when my perspective changed. In the end, anonymity (which I don’t use anymore here) may have gotten me used to this, but I’d say that using anything you have around you, like mentioned before, can both grow confidence and make it useful.

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